I learned so much preparing this talk and even though I am through with my speaking assignment I have continued to reference Elder Scott's talk and my notes. I am so very thankful for the opportunity to speak to the congregation of friends I attend church with. I felt impressed to post my talk here. I hope you may also be able to learn something. We are all so blessed to feel the peace our Savior Jesus Christ can bring if we will but reach out and accept it.
I was
assigned to speak on the talk given by Elder Richard G. Scott in the last
general conference entitled, “For Peace at Home.” There is so much in this talk I love. He starts out by reminding us of the
frantic pace the world would have us live and the desire we each have for a
place of refuge and peace.
I think
often we think peace in this world is not only difficult to attain but that it
is only found within the walls of the temple. While it certainly is found there, Elder Scott states, “The
ideal place for that peace is within the walls of our own homes, where we have
done all we can to make the Lord Jesus Christ the centerpiece.”
Well, how
do we do that in the midst of our busy lives? For me specifically, how do I do that during days of peanut butter
sandwiches pulled apart and smeared on the furniture. How do I find peace in
moments of boys who pull up the sprinkler line in the front yard when I run
into start the third load of sheets in two days?
Elder
Scott reminds us of the 3 basic fundamentals that can be implemented no
matter what our specific circumstance may be; daily personal and family prayer,
daily personal and family scripture study, and weekly family home evening.
First,
our prayers. Praying is something
I think we do not utilize often or fully enough. The Lord really does want to bless us, He wants to help
us. Just as we see our children
struggling and pleading for help, he longs to hear from us and help us. He does answer our sincere
prayers. How are we receiving
those answers?
We need to do our best not to rationalize the promptings we
receive. Many times our prayers
are not answered during the time we spend on our knees but rather as we go
about our days.
In the
midst of our day these answers or promptings to do something can be easy to
pass off; we often think, “That’s too hard, I could never do that,” or “That
would never work, I’ve already tried it,” or “I’m just not that kind of
person.” But these are the very
promptings we must follow. These answers to prayers do
cause us to change or do something different than we have done before. They actually require us to stretch and
become more like The Lord would have us be.
Recently,
Steve and I were having a discussion on how frustrating it is as parents to
have to repeat ourselves over and over again just to get our boys to follow one
instruction. Just as we were about
to go further in the conversation expressing our specific frustrations, we
stopped and smiled at each other and asked, how often does The Lord ask us to do
something before we actually do it?
The Lord
is often not able to answer our prayers without us taking some sore of
action. We must do something
different if we want to see a change in our lives. We must do the hard things he prompts us to do.
Second, personal and family scripture study. I love that Elder Scott discusses how
amazing it is we can carry around all of our scriptures and conference talks in
our pocket. Sometimes it makes me
laugh a little when I remember as a kid older people in my ward carrying the
extra large print scriptures around, those massive books!
I recently attended a family history conference. The most prevailing theme of the 3-day
conference was the amount of technology we have to do family history work. This question was posed several times,
“What will our great great grandchildren wish we would have recorded?” This question could also be applied to
scripture study, “What do our great great grandparents wish we would do with
our time when we no longer have to pull out these volumes of scripture, or
search through stacks of old Ensigns for a specific conference talk but can
easily pull out something smaller than our hand and read anything we like while
using the bathroom?” Don’t tell me
you don’t use it in there! Think
of how they would have rolled their eyes to see us being able to read in the
dark, in the middle of the woods if we wanted or even while waiting to pick up
our kids from soccer practice?
While studying for this talk this week, I learned that I love
Ether chapter 12. It is easily one
of my favorite chapters of scripture.
I’ve also been really enjoying taking the bishops challenge to read the
Book of Mormon studying a specific topic.
What a direct way to receive answers to the problems or questions we
have in our lives right now! If
you are desperately seeking or wanting to know what the Lord wants you to know
in your life right now, take the bishops challenge. Pick up that Book of Mormon and dive in, I can promise you
will receive the personal revelation you desire.
Elder Scott also has some great advice on how to use the
technology we have. He says, “Be
wise in how you embrace technology.
Mark important scriptures on your device and refer back to them frequently. If you young people would review a
verse of scripture as often as some of you send text messages, you could soon
have hundreds of passages of scriptures memorized. Those passages would prove to be a powerful source of
inspiration and guidance by the Holy Ghost in times of need.”
Third, weekly family home evening. I love the talk that was given about four years ago in this
ward by a newly released singles ward bishop. What I recall most in his talk was how to teach our children
to avoid the evil of the world. He
recommended we take our children to the temple regularly and that by doing so
they would start to recognize the peace that comes in being there.
He said our children would better be able to discern between
what is evil and what is holy because they will remember the feelings
associated with being in or near the temple. We don’t have to have 12-year-old children to do this. All of the temple grounds are dedicated
and therefore carry the spirit of the Lord.
Taking our children to the temple regularly is easier to
implement than you may think. As a family, we
spend one family home evening there a month. It’s the easiest family home evening we have all month and our boys
cheer when we tell them we are headed to the temple for FHE! We let them decide each time what they
want to do; watch movies, look at pictures, talk to the missionaries and they
always want to hear Jesus talk so we sit and listen to the message given at the
Christus. We then walk over to the
temple and have them touch the temple walls and let them run! Run all they want! Everybody loves it and I love to hear
my boys ask to go to the temple in the days and weeks that follow. So for a night of no planning on our
part we teach them the love we have for the temple and it allows us all to feel
of the Savior’s peace and love for us.
By spending more time in and near the temple we will be more
able to recognize the things in our life that are keeping us from feeling the
peace we feel there.
The First Presidency has
invited “adult members to have a current temple recommend and visit the temple
more often” where time and circumstance permit and encouraged members “to
replace some leisure activities with temple service.” They also encouraged
“newer members and youth of the Church who are 12 years of age and older to
live worthy to assist in this great work by serving as proxies for baptisms and
confirmations.” Even our young children have been encouraged to visit the
temple grounds and touch the temple. President Thomas S. Monson once counseled, “As we touch the
temple, the temple will touch us.”
So three things to help us gain peace in our homes; personal and family prayer, personal and family scripture study, and weekly family home evening. Sounds easy enough, right? If we are feeling weak in any of these areas of our lives please remember, Satan
constantly tries to exploit our weaknesses. He’s happiest when we are focusing on all that we are not rather
than all that we are. We may be
imperfect, but we have the ability to accomplish all that God wants from us
here.
As we
were reminded this last general conference, imperfect people are all God has
ever had to work with. We are
promised multiple times in the scriptures that He will make weak things become
strong if we will be humble, seek after Him and do all that we can do.
Ether 12:27, And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them.
Elder Scott counsels us to recognize the good in others, not
their stains. That we must always
build on his or her virtues. This
is true of how we see and treat ourselves as well.
To me
anxiety and stress are the direct opposite of peace. We learn in Doctrine and Covenants Section 130: 20-21,
20 There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated—
21 And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.
So if you
are feeling stress or anxiety over:
·
Your Marriage
o
Pray for your spouse and for your marriage
o
Seek counsel from the bishop if needed
o
Seek professional help if needed
o
Serve the other one, even if you don’t always
feel like it
o
Remember how you fell in love, do the things you
did then, now; we were poor college students so that means for us going on
walks, making dinner for one another, sharing our hopes and dreams for the
future, making things for one another, investing in quality alone time with one
another
·
Your Children
o
Spend one on one time doing something they love
o
Talk to them without distractions (phones, TV,
video games)
o
Ask them how you can help them, what do they
need? (sometimes the answer is surprisingly simple)
o
Encourage them, praise them, take any
opportunity to build them (our children live in a harsh uncaring world they need all the building they can get)
o
Read and counsel with the Lord over The Family Proclamation
o
Pray for your children and yourself as their parent
o
Ask for personal revelation as to how you can
build the relationship with that child
·
Your Finances
o
Get rid of debt
o
Stop buying things (Jen's Nothing New For a Year)
o
Stick to a budget
o
Pray for self discipline
·
The Future of our world
o
Food storage
o Save money
o
Serve others, bring goodness into the world
o
Recognize the good in others, not the stain
o
Pray for those that are suffering in the world
·
A Problem At Work
o
Look for opportunities to serve those you work
with, go the extra mile for them
o
Pray for them and you
I believe
there is never a time when the adversary is working harder on us than we are
trying to change to be better or work towards a worthy goal.
For us, I
always feel this the most when we are in the process of adopting a child. I am no longer surprised at the lengths
Satan will go to in order to keep a special sacred spirit from going to a home
where that precious baby can be sealed in the temple.
After we
had Zadok in our home and were waiting months for paperwork to be filed and
court dates to be set, I became keenly aware of how desperately Satan wanted to
keep us from taking him to be sealed to us in the temple. Everything seemed more difficult.
·
I was healing from surgery I had undergone only
5 days before we received him
·
Steve and I were arguing rather than talking
through differences we had as brand new parents
·
We were working out brand new relationships with
Zadok’s birth family that we had met only two days before he came to us
·
I was feeling torn between staying at work or suddenly
becoming a stay at home mom with no time to prepare myself or the boss and
staff I worked with
·
I was not attending the temple weekly like I had
been for years because of all these new demands as a mother
·
This was all on top of the little sleep and
increased demands that come with any baby
As
completely overjoyed as we felt in the first several weeks after he arrived, it
was incredibly stressful. We
needed somewhere we could turn for peace.
We wanted some place of refuge.
Finally we decided that they only way we were actually going to make it
to the temple to be sealed as a family and have the peace we were desperately
seeking, we were going to have to change.
We
started with media in our home and cars. We completely turned off our TV and didn’t watch any
movies. We stopped listening to
the radio. We started listening
more to conference talks, music put out by the church and Classical
or other uplifting or relaxing music.
Next, we
decided we would not talk about or make decisions when we were tired. We avoided subjects
that were unnecessary or caused stress we could not do anything about. We also decided to really lighten up on
ourselves and each other. We had
never done this before and few people around us had any experience on adopting a baby
in under 48 hours, it was difficult and we really only had ourselves and the
Lord to rely on.
We also
continued to pray together and with our new precious baby. It was so fun to read scriptures like
you would a fairytale to him. I’m
still convinced this is when he learned his favorite line in the scriptures,
“And it came to pass.”
The
blessings came and the sweet spirit we had enjoyed when Zadok first came
returned. While reading through my
journal of that time recently, I was reminded of times we were both in an
exhausted stupor with one of us holding him and we would look at each other and
grin at one another.
We literally
bathed in The Spirit that came with this sweet baby. When it came time to take him to the temple I wrote this in my
journal, “The morning was overcast and rainy and while the three of us left
before everyone else, we started to see cars sliding in the rain and
puddles. I started to get so
nervous we would not get there safely and then just as I had that thought I
felt as though a blanket were placed over our truck and we seemed to avoid any
problems the other drivers were having.”
If we
want peace in this world, it is not going to just come to us because we desire
it. We are going to have to make
an effort to seek after it, even fight for it. We need to increase our consciousness of what is getting in
the way of the Lord’s Spirit having a constant influence in our homes and minds
and then decide to do something about it.
So often
we feel like attaining peace in our homes is a daunting or even impossible
task, as though it would take a miracle. But we are promised in Ether chapter 12
that if we have faith and are obedient, miracles will happen. Real miracles.
We are
also shown in this chapter that our weaknesses are actually gifts from
God. Isn’t that surprising? In order for weaknesses to become
strengths we must become humble and have faith that the Lord will help us and
provide us with his grace.
He is not
asking great things from us but simple small things each day. I believe the Lord actually blesses us
on the effort we make rather than the actual outcome of those efforts. We all fall so very short. But if we will do our best to have
personal and family scripture study, personal and family prayer and weekly home
evenings; the Lord will guide us and tell us what else we can do to bring
greater peace into our homes.
We must be obedient to the promptings we receive
if we are to bring the miracle of peace into our lives and homes. He will actually
fill in the gaps we leave. I know
this is true as so often I can look back and see how He has done this for me
specifically.
I am thankful to have knowledge of Jesus Christ, The Prince of Peace. I know He lives and desires to bless all of us with His peace. May we all seek after Him and find peace. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.
